Do you think its right to spy on your child?
Does your child have private internet access?
The Victims’ Champion called for adults to install monitoring software on computers used by youngsters, and she admitted she checks up on her own children.
"It’s like being stalked," she said. "It’s harassment. As an adult, it’s seen as all those things. But for some reason when we put it with children and put the word bullying to it, it’s something which can be brushed over.
Since the death of her daughter Sarah at the hands of paedophile Roy Whiting in 2000, Mrs Payne has become a prominent campaigner for victims’ rights. Mrs Payne, who took up her Government-appointed post at the end of January, made her comments as she launched Real Radio’s Websafe campaign.
According to a survey by the network of regional stations, a fifth of schoolchildren admit they have given personal information to someone they have never met. The poll of 3,680 children aged 11 to 15 also found 16% had agreed to meet a stranger after chatting on the internet.
The research showed 61% of teenagers could access the internet in their bedrooms, with almost half (45%) of parents never checking on their children’s online activities.
Mrs Payne defended "spying" on children for their own safety.
"I’m not sorry or apologising for being involved in my children’s lives," she said. "You just have to tell them – yes, you can have the internet, but this software will be on there and I will check at some point and if you don’t stick to these rules, the internet goes. You’re the parent, they’re the child and, quite frankly, there’s nothing wrong with that."
http://uk.news.yahoo.com/21/20091116/tuk-parents-should-spy-on-kids-online-6323e80.html
Mrs Payne is just right not to be sorry for ‘’spying”
After several incidents in which I found the 11 year old talking to strangers and having a forbidden facebook profile all emails,invitations to message etc are routed through me.
She also knows if my IM pops up while she is on Lexi is the only one she can reply to.
She is also not allowed the laptop in her bedroom anymore.
On a side note isn’t Sara Payne an incredibly brave women?
Most people would go to pieces after losing a child in such an horrendous manner but she has campaigned to save other children
God Bless her
November 18th, 2009 at 7:33 am
Yes. These days you need to be extra careful
There is a higher risk these days of kids contacting
people they shouldn’t with access to the internet
Sad but true
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November 18th, 2009 at 7:47 am
I wouldn’t let my child have internet access in her room, it would be in a communal room such as the living room. I’d also take an interest in what she does online too and not allow her to use it for more than about an hour a night (obviously depending on what schoolwork needs to be done too). I think I’d only install monitoring software if I thought she couldn’t be trusted but she still needed the internet for schoolwork.
However having not been in that situation I might do things differently when it comes to it.
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November 18th, 2009 at 8:04 am
If I had children, I’d want to know what they are doing, who they are around, and where they are at all times. In Florida and other states recently, there has been a rash of very young girls kidnapped and killed. I can almost guarantee that the parents of those children wished that they had been watching them more closely. The internet is a wonderful thing and can give access to useful information instantly. It is also a means of easy access to the more evil elements.
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November 18th, 2009 at 8:20 am
Yes of course you have to monitor what your child sees on the internet! I would never let my child have access to the internet without my supervision. There is so much unpleasant stuff readily available, and you don’t even have to go looking very hard, even sites like You Tube have stuff that is deeply unsuitable for children to look at. And I really don’t agree with children being able to go on Facebook or MSN as you never know who they may be contacted by.
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November 18th, 2009 at 8:37 am
Yes I do – far to many parents now adays just don’t have a clue as to what their kids are up too. We all live in a troublesome world frought with dangers.
The internet question is very simple to sort out. The LT/DT stays in a central place in the house – so all who are passing by can ‘notice’ whats being looked at on the internet. The kids will disagree with all of this ofcourse – but it will stop those that get up too no good (and there are 1000’s of them) while roaming the Internet – I just cannot believe or understand why parents allow priviate use in the kids bedrooms – not knowing what they are getting up to. When not in use they should all leave them in a cuboard/table in the main room – not to be taken into bedrooms. When they are 18ys old they can do as they please. The internet is the most ‘dangerous place’ for an unsupervised child – and still some parents just don’t get it at all.
If parents really undestood what went on in there little angles bedrooms while useing the Internet – they would all have a ‘heart attack’ – all of the publicised trouble on the media – murders/rapes/etc are soley because these kids ‘have secrets’ on the internet and keep them from their parents – and when things go wrong the parents just cannot understand how it happen. It just beggers belief that they are so out of touch with what their own kids will or will not do.!!
All an adult has to remember is whatever they ‘click onto’ so can and will the kids – ‘porn’ and all the rest – its the most ‘uncontrolled’ media they allow the kids to involve themselves with. Who cares if the kids don’t agree – if they don’t agree too the house rules – then the LT/DT goes in the bin – no exceptions.!! Any parent who ‘claims too trust’ their offspring is a dreamer and has their head stuck in the sand – and will just wait for the ‘trouble day too arrive’ as one day it surely will.
Our kids know the rules – they don’t like them – but the LT/DT is kept in a ‘central place’ in the house – anyone not keeping too that – then its bin time.!!
Parents have only to ask themselves what they were like/did when kids – we all kept secrets from our parents – so its not a question of trusting your kids or not – its a question of the parents being ‘ahead of the game’ at all times. If parents went along with these type of ‘house rules’ they would have less trouble from there kids secrets.!!
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:07 am
Mrs Payne is just right not to be sorry for ‘’spying”
After several incidents in which I found the 11 year old talking to strangers and having a forbidden facebook profile all emails,invitations to message etc are routed through me.
She also knows if my IM pops up while she is on Lexi is the only one she can reply to.
She is also not allowed the laptop in her bedroom anymore.
On a side note isn’t Sara Payne an incredibly brave women?
Most people would go to pieces after losing a child in such an horrendous manner but she has campaigned to save other children
God Bless her
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:43 am
yes, you have to spy on kids, even before internet, they ar ekids and dont alwyas make the right decisions.
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November 18th, 2009 at 10:15 am
Anything that will keep our children safe is a very good idea
xx
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November 18th, 2009 at 10:39 am
Oh dear! Has ‘he’ got into your wardrobe,and started wearing your clothes again?
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